From Abandonment to Reintegration: A New Manifesto For My Past Self

When we are small, it is easier to reject our selves than it is to reject the actions or beliefs of those on whom we depend. Even if, somewhere deep inside, somewhere right and true and full of wisdom, we know they are wrong.

So we learn how to cope. We abandon little parts of ourselves that we deemed unlovable, and shift and change until we become the little people that our caregivers will accept.

We do everything we can to abandon ourselves so that we, ourselves, will not be abandoned.

And then, if we are brave enough, we someday learn how to bring our selves back together.